Comments on: Four Profound Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz http://ririanproject.com/2007/03/31/four-profound-agreements-by-don-miguel-ruiz/ A personal development blog! Sun, 14 Mar 2010 14:07:24 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Leslie Levy http://ririanproject.com/2007/03/31/four-profound-agreements-by-don-miguel-ruiz/comment-page-1/#comment-88399 Leslie Levy Tue, 22 Jul 2008 00:09:44 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2007/03/31/four-profound-agreements-of-don-miguel-ruiz/#comment-88399 Dear Don Miguel, How is it possible to not take family relationships personally? It seems to me that because we do not choose our family (at least consciously), they offer and afford the most personal of karmic reflections and feedback. In my case, my family was abusive, and negligent in childhood and now is unaccepting, dysfunctional, and, in my mother's case, in denial of my very existence as an adult. And this karmic pattern has been consistent throughout my intimate relationships as an adult ... Inevitably, eventually the jinx or hex of my primary formation will effect new opportunities in the world of people who need people to go along in order to get along and to get along in order to go along through life. Perhaps it's a lesson in humility to realize at every turn that because I do not have independent origination, I must be willing to surrender to emptiness ... Sometimes the emptiness feels like a great dispensation ,,, other times it feels like a great obstacle. My family has a memorable history of black-sheeping the second-born for at least three generations. And apparently the apple couldn't fall far enough aWay from the tree to plant any roots in healthy relationships ... (this makes a long story short at 53.) For 16 years, I've been Self-sustaining in an inner life of Self-cultivation where I can look at this karmic pattern from the vantage of the higher Self without taking things personally ... The enormous facet of family trust and early formation has been for me a can of worms that sucks me into a black hole of anti-magnetic energy that seems to taint All other interpersonal opportunities for reciprocity, trust, traction and support. For as much as I admire your book, It seems impossible to keep this agreement to not take anything personally when it comes to the anti-magnetic energy of myself as it relates to a family that cannot relate and its karmic rippling effects in adulthood throughout the patterns of my life. Any thoughts you might have on this dilemma would be greatly appreciated, Sincerely, Leslie Levy Dear Don Miguel,

How is it possible to not take family relationships personally? It seems to me that because we do not choose our family (at least consciously), they offer and afford the most personal of karmic reflections and feedback. In my case, my family was abusive, and negligent in childhood and now is unaccepting, dysfunctional, and, in my mother’s case, in denial of my very existence as an adult.

And this karmic pattern has been consistent throughout my intimate relationships as an adult …
Inevitably, eventually the jinx or hex of my primary formation will effect new opportunities in the world of people who need people to go along in order to get along and to get along in order to go along through life.

Perhaps it’s a lesson in humility to realize at every turn that because I do not have independent origination, I must be willing to surrender to emptiness … Sometimes the emptiness feels like a great dispensation ,,, other times it feels like a great obstacle.

My family has a memorable history of black-sheeping the second-born for at least three generations. And apparently the apple couldn’t fall far enough aWay from the tree to plant any roots in healthy relationships … (this makes a long story short at 53.)

For 16 years, I’ve been Self-sustaining in an inner life of Self-cultivation where I can look at this karmic pattern from the vantage of the higher Self without taking things personally … The enormous facet of family trust and early formation has been for me a can of worms that sucks me into a black hole of anti-magnetic energy that seems to taint All other interpersonal opportunities for reciprocity, trust, traction and support.

For as much as I admire your book, It seems impossible to keep this agreement to not take anything personally when it comes to the anti-magnetic energy of myself as it relates to a family that cannot relate and its karmic rippling effects in adulthood throughout the patterns of my life.

Any thoughts you might have on this dilemma would be greatly appreciated,

Sincerely,
Leslie Levy

]]> By: Tabs http://ririanproject.com/2007/03/31/four-profound-agreements-by-don-miguel-ruiz/comment-page-1/#comment-6442 Tabs Sun, 01 Apr 2007 19:18:22 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2007/03/31/four-profound-agreements-of-don-miguel-ruiz/#comment-6442 The first time I read this book, I immediately adopted the four agreements as part of the guiding principles for my life, these agreements will make your life so much easier because it allows you to take a step back, think and then act. Thanks for a great post. Tabs The first time I read this book, I immediately adopted the four agreements as part of the guiding principles for my life, these agreements will make your life so much easier because it allows you to take a step back, think and then act.

Thanks for a great post.
Tabs

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