Comments on: How to Make New Friends and Give Your Social Life a Boost http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/ A personal development blog! Wed, 17 Mar 2010 14:34:17 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Mark http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/comment-page-1/#comment-123695 Mark Mon, 22 Sep 2008 17:33:13 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/#comment-123695 I dont know about anyone else, but i understand all this, I'm a good socialiser - but what makes me stand offish is horrendous insecurities, like - do i smell ok? does my breath smell? have i got a bogey poking out my nose? anything in my teeth? what if this guy is homophobic but doesnt know about me yet? have i got anything on my face? are my nails clean? have i got sweaty pits, oh dear my palms are sweating again i hope he doesnt try to shake my hand! have i got too much aftershave on? am i standing too close? Am i making enough eye contact... omg i am making too much eye contact? All these sorts of questions start racing through my head when talking to new people so i start touching/checking my nose, putting my hand over my mouth to hide my teeth (theyre a tiny bit crooked but im paranoid about it), wiping sweat of my hands on my jeans incase they go to shake my hand or something, start picking under my nails incase dirt is under there, fold my arms tightly to try and discreetly check my pits for sweat patches - i have even turned round to get my drink and licking the back of my hand and smelling it to check my breath in the process so they dont see - im a clean person i know that none of what im checking for will be there (except the hands... they do sweat at the best of times) but i do it anyway... almost impulsively... its that what seems to be my problem with meeting new people. Any tips on getting out of that habit? I dont know about anyone else, but i understand all this, I’m a good socialiser – but what makes me stand offish is horrendous insecurities, like – do i smell ok? does my breath smell? have i got a bogey poking out my nose? anything in my teeth? what if this guy is homophobic but doesnt know about me yet? have i got anything on my face? are my nails clean? have i got sweaty pits, oh dear my palms are sweating again i hope he doesnt try to shake my hand! have i got too much aftershave on? am i standing too close? Am i making enough eye contact… omg i am making too much eye contact?

All these sorts of questions start racing through my head when talking to new people so i start touching/checking my nose, putting my hand over my mouth to hide my teeth (theyre a tiny bit crooked but im paranoid about it), wiping sweat of my hands on my jeans incase they go to shake my hand or something, start picking under my nails incase dirt is under there, fold my arms tightly to try and discreetly check my pits for sweat patches – i have even turned round to get my drink and licking the back of my hand and smelling it to check my breath in the process so they dont see – im a clean person i know that none of what im checking for will be there (except the hands… they do sweat at the best of times) but i do it anyway… almost impulsively… its that what seems to be my problem with meeting new people.

Any tips on getting out of that habit?

]]> By: manny http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/comment-page-1/#comment-123588 manny Mon, 22 Sep 2008 07:08:17 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/#comment-123588 Also, make sure your breath don't stink! Also, make sure your breath don’t stink!

]]> By: ShArOn DsOuZa http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/comment-page-1/#comment-85174 ShArOn DsOuZa Sun, 13 Jul 2008 08:08:05 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/#comment-85174 hmm its really helpful yaa thanks a lot an plzzz keep gvng such g8t an helpful advice ..god bless hmm its really helpful yaa thanks a lot an plzzz keep gvng such g8t an helpful advice ..god bless

]]> By: Amit http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/comment-page-1/#comment-67959 Amit Sun, 11 May 2008 00:02:23 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/#comment-67959 The advice here is very helpful. I'll try to make new friends in the place I am now. Thanks very much. Friends can make life happy even if they cant offer any help in our social life but they give emotional support to each of us at our most difficult times which is why I always treasure my friends. Friends do forgive and forget all our wrongdoings .I'm lucky to have a few very good friends. It is ironic that you wouldn't find such support with people who you have other type of relationships such as family or romance. if others do things which are bad or unforgivable ,sometimes we develop hatred for them and lose all our feelings and the same rules apply to us as well. Friends stick with us inspite of our faults and guide us , make us wise with advice which is most important for us to face life. The advice here is very helpful. I’ll try to make new friends in the place I am now. Thanks very much. Friends can make life happy even if they cant offer any help in our social life but they give emotional support to each of us at our most difficult times which is why I always treasure my friends. Friends do forgive and forget all our wrongdoings .I’m lucky to have a few very good friends. It is ironic that you wouldn’t find such support with people who you have other type of relationships such as family or romance. if others do things which are bad or unforgivable ,sometimes we develop hatred for them and lose all our feelings and the same rules apply to us as well. Friends stick with us inspite of our faults and guide us , make us wise with advice which is most important for us to face life.

]]> By: khalil http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/comment-page-1/#comment-65071 khalil Fri, 02 May 2008 10:26:04 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/#comment-65071 hi, its a very good articles thanks for all team. hi,
its a very good articles thanks for all team.

]]> By: Tristan http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/comment-page-1/#comment-62591 Tristan Thu, 24 Apr 2008 08:10:38 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/#comment-62591 obviously this article is useful and sophisticated. but I don't think more and more techniques involved into the friendship is a good trends.Make friends should be a natural process. obviously this article is useful and sophisticated. but I don’t think more and more techniques involved into the friendship is a good trends.Make friends should be a natural process.

]]> By: suzy http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/comment-page-1/#comment-52893 suzy Thu, 27 Mar 2008 21:55:26 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/#comment-52893 this has helped me alot it always takes me a loong time to talk to people and feel comfortable around them guess i better get over it. this has helped me alot it always takes me a loong time to talk to people and feel comfortable around them guess i better get over it.

]]> By: justina http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/comment-page-1/#comment-52494 justina Tue, 25 Mar 2008 14:48:18 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/#comment-52494 i realy enjoyed reading dis n i learnt a lot from this n am sure it realy works.i have a friend and i know she is the best. i realy enjoyed reading dis n i learnt a lot from this n am sure it realy works.i have a friend and i know she is the best.

]]> By: Sam http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/comment-page-1/#comment-52413 Sam Tue, 25 Mar 2008 04:08:42 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/#comment-52413 This was wonderful article, it really gave me hopes to move on, and get along with people because i'm little shy. And really for me, i found that being shy is not a good thing because those people are people like who you are, so try to brake down your shyness and live you life. !!!!!!! Thanks again,,, This was wonderful article, it really gave me hopes to move on, and get along with people because i’m little shy. And really for me, i found that being shy is not a good thing because those people are people like who you are, so try to brake down your shyness and live you life. !!!!!!!

Thanks again,,,

]]> By: razan http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/comment-page-1/#comment-46967 razan Tue, 04 Mar 2008 15:36:12 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/#comment-46967 its really very nice topics and gladly i have a very speacial friend of mine she is true friend i will never forget her in my lifeeeeeeeeeeee thxx its really very nice topics and gladly i have a very speacial friend of mine she is
true friend i will never forget her in my lifeeeeeeeeeeee
thxx

]]> By: Lebo http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/comment-page-1/#comment-45601 Lebo Thu, 28 Feb 2008 13:10:47 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/#comment-45601 This is most wonderful article iv ever read. Ive learnt quiet a lot.One thing iv personally experienced is that in all of this "dont act or be deperate." I currently have a famous Internationl Dj friend. If i ever acted deperate he wouldnt be my friend today. This is most wonderful article iv ever read. Ive learnt quiet a lot.One thing iv personally experienced is that in all of this “dont act or be deperate.” I currently have a famous Internationl Dj friend. If i ever acted deperate he wouldnt be my friend today.

]]> By: christine http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/comment-page-1/#comment-42977 christine Sun, 10 Feb 2008 21:46:10 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2007/09/01/how-to-make-new-friends-and-give-your-social-life-a-boost/#comment-42977 i really like what you have written. i'd like to hear more about taking it from meeting potential friends and then actually following up with them. i find it hard to ask for people's phone number, etc, especially if you're not interested in dating them. i really like what you have written. i’d like to hear more about taking it from meeting potential friends and then actually following up with them. i find it hard to ask for people’s phone number, etc, especially if you’re not interested in dating them.

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