10 Big Lessons from Little Kids


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“You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance.”

- Franklin P. Jones

Learn from little kidsHave you ever watched a child completely engrossed in a project? They have the unusual ability to be serious about what they’re doing without taking it too seriously. You can do the same with your life. You can live every day with more focus, and every week with more motivation.

Here’s what every child knows that you may have forgotten. See if you can apply some of these lessons to your adult life.

1. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Even when there’s not a prize in the bottom of the box.

Studies show that children who eat breakfast do better in school. It doesn’t take much further thought to know that adults will feel better and perform better at work as well. Researchers believe that eating first thing in the morning may help to stabilize blood sugar levels, which regulate appetite and energy. They suggest people who eat breakfast are less likely to be hungry during the rest of the day and are, therefore, less likely to overeat. So, tomorrow morning, remember that eating a healthy breakfast is the best way to start off your day, and be good to yourself by eating a healthy one.

2. Homework blows. Bring work home with you and it’ll ruin your night. And your marriage. And your family. And your life.

Don’t bring work home. If you are overloaded and don’t have enough time at work to do what is expected, talk to your supervisor to resolve the problem. Home should be your relaxation zone, not another workplace. Make sure you separate work and leisure time in your head – so that work doesn’t spill over into your fun. Even simple things like changing out of your work clothes and having a shower when you get home, or going to the gym after work can help you shake off the working day.

3. The only way to know how something works is to completely disassemble it. (This is still good advice when tackling a complex problem. Your plasma TV? Not so much).

Hard problem? Break it down! Writing a book seems daunting, so start by doing an essay. If an essay is too much, start by writing a paragraph summary. The important thing is to have something done right away. Once you have something, you can judge it more accurately and understand the problem better. It’s also much easier to improve something that already exists than to work at a blank page. If your paragraph goes well, then maybe it can grow into an essay and then into a book, little by little, a perfectly reasonable piece of writing all the way through.

4. There’s a reason they don’t give credit cards to 8-year-olds. You’re supposed to save up money before you buy a new toy.

Managing your money is an important life skill that few of us were ever taught. But it’s never too late to learn. Taking control of your money means knowing where it’s going. It’s all too easy to let your money fritter away without any real sense of what you’re spending. The key is to sit down and work it out. It’s a good idea to write down your spending, then you can review it and see where you could manage money better.

5. Asking questions is how you figure things out. Lots and lots of questions.

Why are taller buildings better? What is the purpose of curbs? Ask anything that comes to mind, and ponder the possible answers. Our brains are wired to be curious. As we grow up and “mature” many of us stifle or deny our natural curiosity. Let yourself be curious! Wonder to yourself about why things are happening. Ask someone in the know. The best way to exercise our curiosity is by asking “Why?” Make it a new habit to ask “why?” at least 10 times a day. Your brain will be happier and you will be amazed at how many opportunities and solutions will show up in your life and work.

6. The coolest adults were the ones who took the time to listen to you. You still want to grow up to be a cool adult, right?

When you’re feeling stressed, have had a particularly difficult day, or are facing a crisis, the ear of a supportive friend can be a lifeline to peace. A genuinely good listener is actually more rare than one would think, and also more valuable. Sometimes people feign listening, but they’re really just waiting for their friend to stop talking so they can say whatever they’ve been mentally rehearsing while they’ve been pretending to listen. People can usually sense this, and it doesn’t feel good. Learn how to be a truly supportive listener, and you may find yourself surrounded by others who are able to do the same.

7. Your body was designed for throwing baseballs, shooting hoops, and jumping off diving boards and stuff. In the secret language of children, the word “fitness” doesn’t exist. It’s called “having fun.”

Everything can be a game. Why slog through the same workout routines in boredom, when you can add a little fun? Make up rules, shoot for personal records, regain your competitive spirit. No fear, no self-doubts, no negative self talk, no self-criticism, no worries, no destructive anxieties or thoughts of failure. To a child, he/she can do anything. And do you know what? They’re right.

8. Playtime is important and laughter feels good.

We get so caught up in work, chores and a host of “have-to’s” that we forget to take time for ourselves. Not only does relaxing and regrouping make life worthwhile, it has real health benefits. Most of all, it will help you stay consistent and motivated. Kids also seem to inherently know that laughter can ease blood pressure, help your brain function, give you energy, and help you reach your goals. Smiling and enjoying yourself can be serious help.

9. Too much of anything will give you a tummy ache. Like, say, bourbon.

Those who over-exercise will burn themselves out. Those who site sedately all day suffer from atrophy. A boy who studies all the time has no friends. Another who only makes friends fails in his examinations. Staying too long under the sun can result in heatstroke and sunburn. Not going out at all makes the skin pale and pallid. Sharpening at all will render the knife useless. Being extreme is always the cause of pain. Moderation, then is the key of life. It is the way to live our lives as it is meant to be lived.

10. Try to be the friend you were when you were 12: fun-loving and loyal, with no strings attached.

The quality that tops the list in survey after survey of what people appreciate most about their friends is loyalty — support that you always give to someone because of your feelings of duty and love towards them. The famous maxim that “a friend in need is a friend indeed” is not the entire story of loyalty, however. A friend in triumph may be even harder to find. It takes twenty-four-karat loyalty for a friend to soar alongside us when we are flying high rather than to bring us down to earth. Loyal friends not only lend a hand when you’re in need; they applaud your successes and cheer you on without envy when you prosper. Be loyal.

When you act more like a kid, suddenly the world opens up, and you start enjoying yourself again!

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  1. September 4, 2007

    There’s a great article in New Scientist ~2 weeks ago about how breakfast being the most important meal of the day is much more complicated than you think. Unfortunately, it’s behind a pay wall unless you’re a subscriber. :-(

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  2. September 4, 2007

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  3. September 4, 2007

    Whoa, Ririan is back in action I see

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  4. September 4, 2007

    Nice article. Last week I did a “Why You Should Make Work Like the First Day of School.” There are some similar themes that your audience might enjoy.

    http://www.jobacle.com/blog/2007/8/28/make-work-like-the-first-day-of-school.html

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  5. September 4, 2007

    Awesome! Not the run of the mill obvious. Very good!

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  8. September 4, 2007

    Im 17 and i can feel my self change into something i hated when i was small. I need to open up and learn from the masters :)

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  9. September 4, 2007

    This is a great list. My favorite: “Playtime is important.”

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  10. September 4, 2007

    Your article is very interesting. I’ll take into account your 10 recommendations.
    cya

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  11. September 4, 2007

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  12. September 4, 2007

    At my high school, we just had to read The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens over the summer for some incomprehensible reason, and I truly believe that we would be much better off studying this.

    Excellent article.

    -Brian

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  13. September 4, 2007

    Your body was designed for throwing baseballs, shooting hoops, and jumping off diving boards and stuff. In the secret language of children, the word “fitness” doesn’t exist. It’s called “having fun.”

    perfect!!!

    and…. child don’t lie! all they say is true. The never mind to say anything even it may offend since it is true.
    =)

    the children learn to lie with adults… it’s a way they find to protect themselves from punishment

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  14. September 4, 2007

    Great post! Looking forward to my first little one to arrive in about 3 weeks!! I can’t wait to see what lessons she teaches me. :)

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  16. September 4, 2007

    A personal development blog with practical ideas on how to make important changes in your life, both big and small, so you can get your life on track and start living up to your true potential… One of the most fun and beautifully written posts for the last time, thank you.

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  17. September 4, 2007

    thanks,

    that was appreciated …

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  18. September 4, 2007

    [...] I like this article: Big Lessons From Little Kids. Based on my own recent experiences with little ones, I would add a lesson: Don’t be afraid to ask for what you need. My preschoolers never fail to amaze me with their ability to not only ask for what they need physically and emotionally, but their ability to accept it wholeheartedly from others. I may ask a crying child, “May I give you a hug?” They respond with a resounding, “Yes!” and immediately find comfort in my arms. The new school year has been in session only a week, so these are children who barely know me at all. I am dazzled by their openness, which in the world of cautious adults goes by the name courage. I work with one three-year-old boy who has a turbulent home life. He was telling me last week of his sadness. “I feel so sad,” he said repeatedly. I asked, “What can I do to make you feel better?” He answered, “I need someone to hold me.” I was so touched by his honesty and vulnerability, not to mention impressed by his articulation. (Of course I held him.) Children have so many lessons to teach us. The openness of this small boy is inspiring to me and I hope I can live up to the lessons he has to offer. [...]

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  20. September 5, 2007

    Josip? You sound like you’re angry at something other than this post or this site. Do you need some play-doh? ;)
    Lighten up already! It’s a cute post, and yes, “10″ is a nice number. It’s double digit, divisible by two, with a “stick and a circle”. Oh, and it’s spelled “L-E-S-S-O-N-S”. ;) You learn something new every day, huh? Just like kids! :)

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  22. September 5, 2007

    These are great reminders.
    Breakfast is indeed worth mentioning. I’ve been through situations wherein I skipped breakfast because of work. And believe me, it’s not a good idea to work with an empty stomach.

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  24. September 6, 2007

    These are useful lessons indeed. It’s nice that we can learn from our children just by observing their actions and behaviors.

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    [...] As the hours grow long, stress escalates, and work drones on, we manage, somehow, to find time to relax. So much of life is complicated and costly, but we take whatever opportunities and freebies we can get. If only we all knew what every child knows, to be flexible to change, to learn to cherish the old and embrace the new. Despite the hiccups, maybe each in our own way, we can discover a kind of happiness. Take a moment to refocus and rethink the past few days and be content for where you’re at right now. Identify what’s most important to you, and eliminate everything else. And always remember hope; tomorrow, may you have a better day. [...]

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  27. September 8, 2007

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  33. September 18, 2007

    Boy, are you singing my song!!! Kids are our sherpas! …and these ten things are great examples of why that is.

    The reason us adults forget all of these valuable insights is because of the deadly and silent disease that is sweeping the nation (and beyond), Adultitis.

    It’s obvious you are doing a great job of fighting this scary disease!! Keep up the great work!

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  34. September 24, 2007

    This is a great list. My favorite: “6. The coolest adults were the ones who took the time to listen to you. You still want to grow up to be a cool adult, right?”

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    Love this blog. Glad I found it and I look forward to reading more.

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    [...] Oct 8, 2007 in Corporate wellness, Proactive healthTags: bicycling, fitness, gyms, positive thinking I ran into a great post today: 10 Big Lessons from Little Kids. I’d have to agree with Henrik of the Positivity Blog that #7 really jumps out of this list: Your body was designed for throwing baseballs, shooting hoops, and jumping off diving boards and stuff. In the secret language of children, the word “fitness” doesn’t exist. It’s called “having fun.” [...]

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