Comments on: How to Say “No” and Mean It http://ririanproject.com/2008/05/09/how-to-say-no-and-mean-it/ A personal development blog! Wed, 17 Mar 2010 14:34:17 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: My List of Some Suggested Online Reading/Reference | TheIFLife - Simple Fat Loss, Muscle, Health and Longevity http://ririanproject.com/2008/05/09/how-to-say-no-and-mean-it/comment-page-1/#comment-123696 My List of Some Suggested Online Reading/Reference | TheIFLife - Simple Fat Loss, Muscle, Health and Longevity Mon, 22 Sep 2008 17:41:15 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2008/05/09/how-to-say-no-and-mean-it/#comment-123696 [...] we spend it…and not let others use it for us. On that note here’s a good article on the art of saying No from the Ririan [...] [...] we spend it…and not let others use it for us. On that note here’s a good article on the art of saying No from the Ririan [...]

]]> By: Laurie http://ririanproject.com/2008/05/09/how-to-say-no-and-mean-it/comment-page-1/#comment-84390 Laurie Mon, 07 Jul 2008 20:41:26 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2008/05/09/how-to-say-no-and-mean-it/#comment-84390 It's important to know how to say 'no' so that you can spend more time saying 'yes' to the things you want to do. For me, instead of saying an outright 'no', I tend to say something like, "I'm not interested in doing that" (while shaking my head) or "I prefer not to." Of course, there are times when the other person doesn't want to accept that and I do have to say a direct 'no', but that's really rare. I like your suggestion #5: saying "Can I think about it and get back to you?" We often think that we must give our answer immediately, but we can take time to think about what we want to do and what our response will be. You've got some really good tips. Thanks for posting. It’s important to know how to say ‘no’ so that you can spend more time saying ‘yes’ to the things you want to do. For me, instead of saying an outright ‘no’, I tend to say something like, “I’m not interested in doing that” (while shaking my head) or “I prefer not to.” Of course, there are times when the other person doesn’t want to accept that and I do have to say a direct ‘no’, but that’s really rare.

I like your suggestion #5: saying “Can I think about it and get back to you?” We often think that we must give our answer immediately, but we can take time to think about what we want to do and what our response will be.

You’ve got some really good tips. Thanks for posting.

]]> By: Laurie http://ririanproject.com/2008/05/09/how-to-say-no-and-mean-it/comment-page-1/#comment-84389 Laurie Mon, 07 Jul 2008 20:34:56 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2008/05/09/how-to-say-no-and-mean-it/#comment-84389 Knowing how to say 'no' is important so that you can say 'yes' to more things you'd like to do. For me, instead of saying an outright 'no' I tend to say something like "I'd prefer not to" (while shaking my head) or "I'm not interested in doing that." Of course, if the other person still doesn't get it, I will directly say 'no', but that's really rare. I like your suggestion #5 - "Can I think about it and get back to you?" When a request takes us by surprise it can be difficult to say 'no' right away. We sometimes forget we can take a bit of time to think of the response we'd like to give. Good tips! Knowing how to say ‘no’ is important so that you can say ‘yes’ to more things you’d like to do. For me, instead of saying an outright ‘no’ I tend to say something like “I’d prefer not to” (while shaking my head) or “I’m not interested in doing that.” Of course, if the other person still doesn’t get it, I will directly say ‘no’, but that’s really rare.

I like your suggestion #5 – “Can I think about it and get back to you?” When a request takes us by surprise it can be difficult to say ‘no’ right away. We sometimes forget we can take a bit of time to think of the response we’d like to give.

Good tips!

]]> By: Scott http://ririanproject.com/2008/05/09/how-to-say-no-and-mean-it/comment-page-1/#comment-67872 Scott Sat, 10 May 2008 10:51:31 +0000 http://ririanproject.com/2008/05/09/how-to-say-no-and-mean-it/#comment-67872 As you suggested, we need to give ourselves as much permission to say "no" instead of automatically feeling we HAVE to say "yes" to any request we're not comfortable with. It's all about being assertive and confident in who you are- and, like you say, practicing how to say "no" really does make us more able to do it the next time. A "yes" man/woman rarely feels good about it. As you suggested, we need to give ourselves as much permission to say “no” instead of automatically feeling we HAVE to say “yes” to any request we’re not comfortable with.

It’s all about being assertive and confident in who you are- and, like you say, practicing how to say “no” really does make us more able to do it the next time. A “yes” man/woman rarely feels good about it.

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