Comments on: Can a Person Really Change?

By: David @ A Happy Pocket Full of Money

David @ A Happy Pocket Full of Money — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 14:21:24 +0000

I believe there are things we can change and some we cannot. The trick is to accept yourself regardless, and then see if you can change, modify, eliminate or enhance what you can change, and find strategies, systems and people to handle things for you in areas where you cannot change or cannot be bothered to change.

By: Trevor

Trevor — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 12:21:42 +0000

You spelt ‘Affect’ wrong through this entire article.

By: Tony

Tony — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 08:34:01 +0000

other counter examples of quick change are: rites of passage, the lefkoe method

You cannot change your past, but you can change the interpretation from those events in your childhood. Usually you made a generalization from an event in the past interpreting it as having some meaning about you as a person. This can be totally unconscious, but its a question of finding it and then changing the interpretation. the principle is the following: someone pulls out a gun and puts it to your head, instantly you are struck by fear, then you find out the gun is not real, maybe your fear turns into anger. Then someone jumps out and says “suprise candid camera!”, you begin to laugh. The meaning can change with the interpretation we give to events, the principle is also explained by Viktor Frankl who survived the concentration camps. Interpretation of events can be changed instantly. Lets take something simple: you had a fight with a good friend, you have feelings of anger towards him, but then you hear his parents had just died and he wasnt capable to express these feelings, your feelings of anger would probably dissolve instantly. Luckely it is possible if it where for our past we would be in deep trouble because we cannot change our past.

By: Tony

Tony — Wed, 30 Dec 2009 07:53:11 +0000

I completely disagree that (starting) change cannot come from outside. You can put yourselves in situations that will challenge you and will change you (internally) as a result. Ive joined toastmasters, travelled alone, taken on professional challenges outside my comfort zone and a number of other things, that made me a more confident, relaxed and optimistic person. Of course i have to be at least willing not to resist change and nothing or nobody can force you if you resist it. I am working more intentionally on the inside aspect now and that has certainly also its merits. I would argue also that all change is slow. I am eliminating limiting beliefs and the results are now already visible. Every day people are taking placebos and as a result some of them heal physically or mentally that is scientific proof that change doesnt have (but can) to be slow. The best results are achieved when working on both tracks, with some internal work its necessary to distance yourself a bit taking the time and space you need. Of course if you think that (all) change is slow it will be, that is the power of belief. But if you would do a bit of research you would find enough counterexamples.

By: Baker

Baker — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 23:20:31 +0000

Great article here. I really like the points you make here. I think that people can change, but it starts from within. Many people looking for change are looking outside of themselves, instead of going within. This is probably the biggest thing I’ve seen personally.

By: Lloyd Christie

Lloyd Christie — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 15:33:10 +0000

Good angle Ririan – thatâ??s right Edward Good Planning personal development over the long term can effect the desired changes in the spirit…

By: Lloyd Christie

Lloyd Christie — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 14:59:20 +0000

Good, Angle Riran. – Thats right Eduard Planning personal development is the Key , to the effect the spirit and are actions

By: Ideas With A Kick

Ideas With A Kick — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 09:57:33 +0000

Sure, people can change, But only so much. Or at least so much in a given period of time. And often not as much as they would like to. This is why I believe in planning personal development.

Eduard