Every minute; every second of our lives, we keep communicating with people, objects, places and all those physical and non-physical things that come in direct reference of our thought process. Surprisingly, we communicate with all our senses; through facial expressions; through unspoken silent gestures; through monologues and even through dialogues. Sometimes we even shout at the loudest of our pitches to communicate to people.
Just like food, Communication too has always been the most integral part of our everyday life. Try thinking of a day when we are not allowed to do so; and you would find that it almost seems as hard as not eating the whole day. Since communication is imperative with us human beings, therefore it is important that we practice the art of positive communication in our daily life. By following some basic rules of positive communication, we can indeed spread a lot of good vibes in the spaces that we move around everyday.
Don’t refuse, out rightly!
Negative answers often lead to triggering of negative thought processes, which can very easily result in negative energies flowing around your environment. These negativities creeping into your system can have an adverse impact on the performance levels at work or anywhere, where you might be. In order to minimize the damage caused by these negative answers; it is important that the phrase is replaced by an expression that’s more subtle; but does not even compromise the real meaning of what we actually intended to say. For example; a straight and blunt “No” could be replaced by a more subtle sounding unfeasible; or impractical; or even with phrases such as; I am afraid the cons weigh slightly higher than the pros here.
Don’t make unrealistic claims!
Making unrealistic claims might lure people towards you in the short run; but in the long run, they always inflict a heavy damage on your credibility among the people. And once the credibility factor starts going down; it would virtually take a life-long effort to restore it back again. That’s why it is always advisable to not loose it in the first place. Although it might seem a little difficult in the beginning, but once you get into the habit of saying things that you can keep, and doing things that you have promised, it really becomes more of a good habit that you always grow fond of keeping day after day.
Although, there might be times when some unforeseen situation might hamper your chances
of fulfilling that promise in totality. Then you must not hesitate in communicating the cause of delay to the concerned and also inform about the revised date, when the chances of the remaining job completion are almost 100%.
Don’t criticize people behind their back!
We all are human beings, and we all make errors in judgment at some point or the other. Being too critical about other’s mistakes opens unnecessary quarters of dissent around us, who try to give back the same criticism at the slightest of opportunities of flaw they might sense at our end. That’s why it is important that we leave room for the human element when taking stock of performances of people around us. It will not only help us in looking at their positive light, but also act as a positive vibe giving them ample fillip to look at our efforts more positively. On the other hand, if we indulge in criticism behind people’s back; they will definitely feel insinuated by us for tarnishing their public image. By speaking to them personally, and taking them into confidence about a certain situation, we can also help in minimizing any air of doubt that might be there in their minds.
Don’t be afraid of accepting your fault!
We should never feel shy of accepting responsibilities of outcomes from our actions. If for some funny reason, the outcome does not meet the criteria of success, then we should also not hesitate from accepting it as our fault. If we indulge in passing the buck on somebody else’s shoulders; it can really lead to unpleasant situations and consequences that might make us feel guilty in the end.
Don’t forget to thank, who matter!
Who does not want to be successful in life? In fact, we all strive day in and out to achieve recognition for our efforts, and we all desire to savor the financial rewards of a successful career in life. But life is indeed funny; it does not always go the way we have planned it to; and that can at times lead to difficult situations arising out of it. In these hours of crisis, there are people who walk alongside us, telling us not to loose faith in our abilities. These people are like those comforting lamps in a pitch dark street where our treading feels easy. No matter how bright a pedestal we may walk one day, we must never forget those people who stood by us in our hard times. We must always keep in touch with these guiding lights during our times of adversity; because it is actually these people, who help us in keeping our feet firmly rooted to the ground.
Don’t underestimate the power of forgiveness!
And lastly but most significantly, we must always try to forgive. There is no negative vibe bigger than holding a grudge in our hearts. It not only plagues us from the inside, but also makes us more self centered in outlook and approach. There is virtually no harm in forgiving; it makes room for improvement in the faulting person’s life.
There is a very famous quote from a very noble man; Mahatma Gandhi, who single handedly changed the destiny of an entire nation; and it says “Be the change that you wish to see in this world.” This quote almost perfectly sums up this entire discussion on communication here; because ultimately, we are (in people’s perception) what we communicate ourselves to others.
