Growing up during your teenage years its important to form relationships and make new friends. These friendships can turn into long lasting relationships. Making new friends is important in your younger years and it’s not difficult if you follow these simple rules.
1. Be Yourself!
This is first on the list for a reason, it’s the most important. It is crucial to accept yourself, for who you are! Don’t try to be someone you’re not! We encourage individuality rather than conformity. Be your own person! Discover what you like and dislike and
Intimacy versus isolation is the next developmental crisis. It is related to unresolved issues around trust or nontrust which begin to surface again between ages eighteen and thirty. “Dare I trust someone enough to be truly intimate, or shall I withdraw and insulate myself instead?” “Am I important enough so that someone will come if I need them?” “Will they accept me as I am with all my unresolved needs?” “If I love other people, will they eventually
Throughout life our bodies change. In youth, the changes lead to increased strength and development. With aging, the changes often lead to decreased strength. Granted, to some degree, the health and development of our bodies are influenced by genetics. But they are also influenced by accidents, illnesses, and nutrition. Currently there is a widespread and growing cultural awareness of the influence of exercise. Exercise is used to increase bodily well-being and to restructure parts of the body.
During ages three to seven, interest begins to shift from wanting autonomy to concern for “Who am I (as a boy or a girl)?” Awareness of one’s sexual identity becomes important. Boys tend to seek their mother’s attention; girls may act to get their fathers to notice them. Parents are often confused by a son’s remark that “I’m going to marry Mama when I grow up” or a daughter’s remark that “I wish Mama would go away so I could have Daddy to myself.” Another difficult crisis exists for children who did not happen to be born the “right” sex to please their parents. They are in the constant process of deciding what kind of person to be and developing a sense of purpose for living.
How many real friends do you think that you have? That’s a question I have been thinking a lot about lately, have you ever posed the question to yourself? Think about it, are you popular? Kind of in between, maybe a little shy? Do you think that you have dozens of friends or maybe just a few? I would bet the answer would really surprise you if you thought about it. I guess the first thing to be is to define what a friend is, is it someone you just hang out with, if you’re a girl is it someone you shop with or if you’re a guy is it a golfing buddy? If you’re single, is it who you go out with, and if you’re married is it the couple or couples that you spend time with? I bet most people have experienced losing what they thought was a really good friend, the person somehow really disappointed them, maybe it was a betrayal of some kind. We have all been through it in one way or another, the “friend” didn’t act in the way you were certain that they would, some form of trust was broken. So the real question is, were they ever really a friend to begin with? Think about it, the truth is, we just really misjudged that person, they were most likely never the person we thought they were to begin with, people rarely change so this breach of friendship must have come from a character flaw that was always there. The truth is, we probably just didn’t see it, the other parts of the relationship hid the flaw, maybe they were great fun or really funny, or maybe they were the person who was always available to hang out with,or maybe the chemistry just mixed well. But when the pressure was on, when you needed that friend to deliver the real act of friendship, the character flaw emerged.
